Forgiveness Healing

Articles

 Breaking News
  • Do You Suffer From “Not Good Enough-Itis?” Hello Friends, Over the years, I’ve come across a condition that is SO common I decided to give it its own name. This condition is called “Not Good Enough-Itis.” Not...
  • The Law of Victimhood Hello Everyone,   Though laws in various countries may be different, there are certain laws that apply to us all, known as Universal Laws.   Universal and cosmic laws apply...
  • Casting Light Into Darkness Hello Friends, In  light of the outbreak of violence in the Ukraine, Venezuela, and so many other places where war is an ongoing event, I wanted to share a note...
  • Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? Hello Everyone,   I was talking with a client the other day about the vital importance of self-love and the steps to take to achieve it.  As part of my...
  • Wounded 8-Year Old In Adult Clothes Hello Everyone,   Have you ever interacted with someone whom you thought was acting childish and unreasonable and thought to yourself “would you please grow up and act your age?”...

Wounded 8-Year Old In Adult Clothes

Wounded 8-Year Old In Adult Clothes
October 06
01:01 2015

Hello Everyone,

 

Have you ever interacted with someone whom you thought was acting childish and unreasonable and thought to yourself “would you please grow up and act your age?”  Have you ever wondered why adults behave so immaturely at times?

 

The reason why an otherwise rational adult suddenly reverts to behaving like a child is because something that was said or done, triggered an old wound in them that was (more often than not) created in their childhood.

 

Most people have heard about “healing the inner child” whether they have sought out professional counseling or not. Before I began assisting people in healing their forgiveness issues, whenever I heard someone talk about healing their inner child, I would question why one would spend so much time digging around in their past when clearly it’s today they are having the challenge with?  Many years and many clients later, I quickly understood why counselors and therapists spend so much time inquiring about the early formative years for it is during this time when foundational beliefs and decisions are created and where traumas are entrenched. In other words, if the child in you doesn’t get healed, then the adult “you” won’t either.

 

The reason we are the way we are, goes back to our very survival.  The need to be loved,wanted, accepted and safe is so innate that anything that threatens the status quo causes great distress and fear.

 

There are many things that can set these fears in motion such as feelings of abandonment caused by a death of a loved one or pet, a parent moving away due to divorce or one who leaves and travels frequently. Feelings of rejection are found in many who were given up for adoption, even if the adoptive parents were better qualified as parents and are more loving and kind. The same goes for children who were placed in foster care. Even when a parent gives a child up for reasons that are in the best interest of the child, how the child interprets that (consciously or not) is, if my own parent/mother doesn’t want me, I must be unlovable. This isn’t true of course but it is often what a young child makes it mean. It is this decision/meaning we create in our minds that causes the hurt which we carry with us the rest of our lives, leaving a wounded child to walk around in adult clothes later on.

 

If you are wondering how painful events from your childhood may be effecting you now, think back to a time when someone (usually a parent, teacher, coach or other authority) said or did something that to this day has left a lasting impression with you.  It could be something as “benign”as a comment such as “you’ll never amount to anything,” or “you’re stupid, lazy” etc.  Someone may have physically or sexually abused you. Unhealed traumas run very deep leaving a trail of pain in their wake.  A question I ask that often gets to the root of a client’s unhealed past is, “If you had your life to live over,what person or event would you just soon leave out?”  This question usually leads one right to the person, event or comment they need to heal most.

 

In order to thrive, we must feel loved and safe. Most of us were born healthy, happy,loving, and trusting children.  We remain this way until an event occurs that alters this way of being.  Loss of childhood innocence threatens our understanding of life as we once knew it. Our view of a kind and supportive world is dashed and in its place distrust,unpredictability and danger now lurk. Unfortunately, most never heal their inner child and live out their adult years in pain over an event they do not realize is impacting their life today.

 

All around are wounded 8-year-olds walking around in adult clothes.  Rather than judge their ‘less than adult’ behavior, understand they, like the rest of us, have unhealed aspects yet to address.  It is so much easier to feel compassion toward one another knowing we are all still ‘children at heart’ who simply want and need to be LOVED.

 

May your week be blessed.

 

Peace and Love~

Pamela Gregory

Founder, ForgivenessHealing Humanity

Share

About Author

admin

admin

Related Articles

0 Comments

No Comments Yet!

There are no comments at the moment, do you want to add one?

Write a comment

Write a Comment

Pamela Gregory

pamela pic

Subscribe Today

Sign Up For Our Monthly Newsletter!
Name
Email *

Testimonials

Celeste Florio

“I went to Utopia Wellness in June 2012 for alternative treatment for breast cancer. One big part of my healing process was helping me deal with emotions and situations that happened in my life. Pam, my therapist, was so informative, inspiring and caring. She helped me address issues that were detrimental to my healing and being cancer free. I learned so much from Pam about how to deal with everyday life, that you could not ask for anyone better.”

Utopia Wellness Patient, USA

5.0
2015-10-20T08:13:59+00:00

Utopia Wellness Patient, USA

“I went to Utopia Wellness in June 2012 for alternative treatment for breast cancer. One big part of my healing process was helping me deal with emotions and situations that

Randy Singer

"For many decades, I harbored deep resentment to organized sports and all those who participated in them. It had hampered my social experiences with those situations and also did not feel comfortable around those who made sports their profession or passion.  Until I met Pamela, I did not realize that the hatred I felt was in retaliation for the relationship I had with my father. My father was an arm-chair sports fanatic. He would watch sports day and night and never, ever, played with his children or even conversed with us.  Once you showed me that, I was able to heal my relationship with sports and my father as well.  My father knew no better……I also consider him my greatest teacher.  I generally just do the opposite of whatever he would have done and that would be THE RIGHT THING to do.  Now, when I see sports, I no longer recoil in horror and anger.  They say anything to its extreme produces the opposite effect. So even though I am not an advocate of organized sports (or religion, etc), I no longer feel those ancient feelings of hatred again.


Thank you for helping me be FREE."




Private Client, USA

5.0
2015-11-20T14:18:56+00:00

Private Client, USA

“For many decades, I harbored deep resentment to organized sports and all those who participated in them. It had hampered my social experiences with those situations and also did not feel

Diane Dalli

"I was struggling as a person with a lot of personal old and new issues, which I kept carrying with me over 30 years.  I did try different therapists and ways to overcome them, but it was not always 100% straight forward for me. A friend recommended Pamela to me, and even though we are in two different countries, I wanted to give it a shot because I really needed it.  From our first chat, I was able to let go of so many issues that I couldn't even believe it.  I thought it might come back, but it didn't. She has taught me the basic rules of life.  Today, I apply what I have learnt to my daily life and it just made me a better person for the simple reason that I am confident in my own skin with a fresh look on life.  She has been a blessing to me and I will treasure our relationship for life."

Private Client, Malta

5.0
2015-11-22T18:30:27+00:00

Private Client, Malta

“I was struggling as a person with a lot of personal old and new issues, which I kept carrying with me over 30 years.  I did try different therapists and

Amelia

"I was introduced to Pamela by a good friend who found me struggling to find my way over a major rut in life. I was almost resigned to the fact I would never be able to live life without a certain amount of regret and sadness. Pamela patiently guided me over that rut, showed me how to deal with other obstacles I may come across in life, taught me forgiveness... and happiness found me.  I am ever so grateful for Pamela's guidance - it was life changing."

Private Client, London, UK

5.0
2015-11-20T14:37:15+00:00

Private Client, London, UK

“I was introduced to Pamela by a good friend who found me struggling to find my way over a major rut in life. I was almost resigned to the fact

Sage Hoffman

"I am blessed to benefit from the wisdom and loving care of Pamela Gregory.  She is always a source of positive light and generosity.  I admire her immensely.   I came to Pamela at a critical stage in my life when I was considering donating an organ to a loved one.  She helped me understand a greater spectrum of causes that contributed to the dis-ease in my boyfriends body.  Thanks to Pamela, I came to understand that the solution for healing wasn't limited to receiving a new kidney.  And more importantly, a source of the dis-ease could continue to reek havoc even after the transplant.  I also learned that the emotional healing (before and after the surgery) was critical to a successful transplant.  With great gratitude in my heart to Pamela, we are still celebrating the successful transplant that took place on Aug 20, 2014.  We are are both healthy and looking to continue our journey of forgiveness and healing together for many years."

Private Client, USA

5.0
2015-11-20T14:49:16+00:00

Private Client, USA

“I am blessed to benefit from the wisdom and loving care of Pamela Gregory.  She is always a source of positive light and generosity.  I admire her immensely.   I
5.0
5

Media & Radio Shows

Radio Show (1)